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Finding the Village



To the members of this beautiful community,

 

I write this as I continue to sit in deep reflection after a conference I co-created this past weekend; Like A Mother. It was in the space 100 women gathered in community to listen to the powerful words, stories, and song of Pearleen Kanewopasikot and Angeleah Bugler, Vice Chief Aly Bear, and Fallon Farinacci.  In a world that often feels divided and isolating, we came together as working women, mothers, and advocates for change. One of the many things that became clear was the need for community, our village, has never been greater.


We live in a world that often feels divided and isolating, leaving us longing for connection. It's a sentiment shared by many of us—lonely, isolated, and yearning for the support that only our fellow sisters can provide. So, let's dive into what it truly means to have a village, to feel its presence, and to create it in our everyday lives.


What Does It Look Like?

The village of women is not just a place; it's a feeling, a powerful sense of belonging. It's that warm hug from a friend when you're at your lowest. It's a shared glance that says, "I understand," when the demands of work and family threaten to overwhelm you. It's the late-night texts, the laughter-filled brunches, and the tearful confessions that bind us together.


In everyday life, the village appears when your neighbour lends a hand to pick up your kids from school when you're stuck in a meeting. It's the mom at the park who offers you a knowing nod when your toddler has a meltdown (we have all done that surf board carry home). It's the colleague who validates and normalizes  your need for a mental health day.


What Does It Feel Like?


The feeling of the village is like cozying up under a blanket on a chilly evening. It's safety, understanding, and support wrapped around you. It's the reassuring words of "You've got this" when life throws you a curveball. It's the comfort of knowing you're not alone on this challenging journey. It’s feeling seen in those darkest hours.


It's the exhilaration of shared achievements (stop with the humility and CELEBRATE) and the comfort in admitting when you've made a mistake. It's the sense of being seen, heard, and valued as a woman, a mother, and in all the other roles you identify within.


How Do We Counter Isolation?

In a world that often isolates us, we must take active steps to build and nurture our village. Here are some practical ways to do just that:


1.Embrace the Group Chat: Create a group chat with your closest friends. Share your daily wins and struggles. Celebrate each other, even if it's just making it through a hectic workday.

2. Regular Check-ins: Schedule weekly or monthly check-ins with a fellow mom. Share your worries, your joys, and your advice. It's therapeutic.

3. Say "Yes" to Sisterhood: Attend women-focused events, seminars, or workshops. You'll meet like-minded individuals and expand your village.

4. Ask for Help: Don't hesitate to ask for help when you need it. Whether it's a neighbour, a colleague, or a friend, your village is there to support you.

5. 'Mom-Time' Ritual: Carve out time for yourself, guilt-free. Take that long bath, read that book, or watch that TV show (Can we talk about the Love is Blind finale?). Your well-being is a priority.

6. Unite Against Hustle Culture: Challenge the hustle culture that demands more of us. Remind yourself and your friends that it's okay to slow down, breathe, and relax.

7. Embrace Imperfection: Laugh at the chaos, celebrate the mess, and relish the journey. Perfection is overrated AND exhausting.


Remember, our village isn't confined to a physical location or a group of people. It's a mindset, a way of life. As we navigate the demands of our roles, let's foster connections and share in the joys and struggles. Our village is out there; sometimes, we just need to take the first step to find it. And when we do, let's nourish it.


~Lisa

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